Using Mediation to Find Balance
Children Need Both Parents
Colorado statutes regarding family law are intentionally unbiased where a parent’s gender is concerned. The Colorado courts are aware that children need a relationship with, and the love and support of, their mother and their father. When deciding on the allocation of parental responsibilities, the Colorado family courts seek to rule in the child’s best interests.
Concerns About Gender Bias
But even in 2019, gender bias is still a concern for many fathers who have played a more traditional role in their families. These are the dads who focused primarily on their work and took care of the majority of their families financial needs. These fathers often feel that they have been placed in a position where their ability to nurture their children and understand their emotional needs may be questioned by the court. They may also feel that they may be in a position of prejudice because they were less uninvolved in their children’s daily activities than the mother who also played a traditional role in the family. Her role was to stay at home and take care of the children. A father’s traditional role of breadwinner often works well in a marriage when the mother has also adopted the traditional role of the children’s caregiver and nurturer. But in the context of divorce, specific role identification can sometimes create problems for the father who is trying to establish his credibility as a strong, loving, and highly capable co-parent.
Overcoming Gender Bias
Fortunately, overcoming traditional family structures has become easier in recent years as our culture is becoming more exposed to alternative forms of parenting. We are all learning to become more aware and accepting of new ways of being a family. Non-traditional roles of strong working mothers, and stay at home Mr. Moms, have become common. But there are times when divorcing parents may come into contact with gender bias and it is important to work with a family law attorney who understands your circumstances and your goals and will fight for your parental rights in a court of law.
Children need the love and support of their mothers and their fathers. Both parents have an important role to play in their children’s upbringing, and the parental decision-making aspect of the allocation of parental responsibilities it an important component. These decisions include those regarding your child’s health, education, religion, and a myriad of other factors that influence your child’s development. When mothers and fathers cannot agree on the decision making aspect of their parenting plan, the Colorado court will decide who will make the important decisions for the children you share. Ideally, both parents should be involved in this process, and mothers and fathers should be working together when making decisions that will impact the entire family. Elissa Bercovitz has the experience as a family law attorney and a mediator. She will work with you to protect your rights.
It is not uncommon for parental alienation to become an issue in divorce proceedings. Parental alienation occurs when one parent attempts to circumvent the relationship their child has their other parent. Parental alienation can include one parent making disparaging remarks about the other parent, or asking the child to take sides in a dispute. This kind of negative behavior is extremely damaging to the child, and being exposed to parental alienation can destroy the child’s ability to establish healthy and happy personal relationships. Elissa Bercovitz has experience with parental alienation, and she can work with you to help you ensure that your child has a healthy and happy relationship with both parents.
Parenting Time with Your Child
The non-custodial parent needs to have enough parenting time to firmly establish a relationship with their child. The non-custodial parent must have the time necessary to become fully engaged in their child’s day to day activities, and be an actively involved participant in their children’s lives. It is important to your child’s development to work together to ensure that your child has enough time with their mother and their father in order to establish a healthy and happy relationship with both parents.
Even though you are your co-parent are no longer living together, it is important to remember that you have an obligation to ensure the healthy development of the children you share. Elissa Bercovitz will help you create a parenting plan that allows you to work together. Strive to be the best parents you can be to your children, and allow Elissa Bercovitz to help you find the right balance that will allow your children to bond with their mother and their father.
Choosing Elissa Bercovitz as Your Family Law Attorney
Schedule a Free Consultation with Elissa Bercovitz to discuss:
· Spousal support, maintenance, alimony
· The allocation of parental responsibility, child support, child custody, and visitation
· Divorce and the dissolution of marriage
· Legal Separation
· Declaration of Invalidity and annulment
Call Elissa Bercovitz at 303 803-1678