Your Colorado Divorce and Social Media:
Be Careful What You Post
When you are going through a Colorado divorce, it is important to be careful about you post to social media sites because your entries could be utilized during divorce proceedings. Social media websites are easily recognizable and every time you post, the website will record the time, day, month, year of your entry. So, it is possible that the information you share on Facebook, My Space, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn or any other social media venue may someday be placed into evidence and become part of the court’s documents. In Colorado, divorce proceedings are a part of the public record unless you or your spouse request to keep the record of your case sealed, and the judge grants your request.
There are important things to consider when you are tempted to post to social media sites during your Colorado divorce:
1. Be Careful What You Post
Be cautious what you post to social media because chances are that it will be viewed by your ex and by opposing counsel.
2. Do Not Document Behavior That Could Be Used Against You
Be careful not to post photos of yourself having too much fun at a party. If you have children and you want shared custody, you want your image to be that of a conservative and responsible parent, not a wild party animal.
3. No Bragging
Avoid posting photos of your all your newly acquired assets. The new house, car, SUV, boat and/ or your expensive and exotic vacation could paint an unrealistic picture of your ability to pay more in child support and / or maintenance (spousal support) to your former spouse.
4. Be Nice
No matter how angry you are, resist the urge to make disparaging remarks about your soon-to-be former-spouse online. You don’t want the courts to have evidence that you have a history of making unkind remarks about your ex and that you may also share your thoughts with your children. The courts want the children to have healthy relationships with both parents following a divorce, and when one parent trashes the other, this kind of behavior can be emotionally damaging to the children.
5. Maintain Your Privacy
Do not rush to introduce your new paramour to the world via social media. Be patient and allow your new relationship to evolve over time. Your children are very likely going through a period of adjustment and you don’t want them to feel that their other parent was easily and quickly replaced with someone new. More importantly, you don’t want to appear that you are so distracted by a new relationship that you cannot adequately focus on your children’s needs.
6. Do Not Post Photos of Your Kids
If you have children, do not post their photos to your social media account. Even some of the most innocent pictures can create an argument against your abilities as a parent. Those cute photos of the kids playing with the neighbors toothless, but large and menacing looking dog could bring to question how safe your children are while in your care.
7. Don’t Provide TMI (Too Much Information)
When it comes to social media, the best way to approach it during your divorce proceedings is to remain silent until it is over. Even though you are going through this challenging time, airing your frustration, pain and despair online will not work to your benefit. While it may be difficult to keep the details of your life out of public view, keeping your private life private during the dissolution of your marriage could make a positive difference in the outcome of your divorce.
Being Represented by Elissa Bercovitz, Esq.
If you are seeking to be represented by a highly skilled and compassionate Colorado family law attorney with over 20 years of legal experience and someone who is familiar with the Colorado courts, judges and magistrates, and very likely the lawyer who is representing the other party, please call Elissa at (303) 803-1678. Or simply fill out the online contact form, and Elissa will be in contact with you to schedule a free consultation. Elissa is also happy to discuss the potential pitfalls of posting to social media sites during your divorce.
About Elissa Bercovitz
Elissa Bercovitz at the Bercovitz Law firm has a Colorado family law practice that is focused exclusively domestic relations matters. Elissa knows how to handle complex family law matters in the Denver Metro area and counties throughout the State of Colorado:
Elissa Bercovitz has experience with domestic relations matters related to the dissolution of marriage (divorce), legal separation, the allocation of parental rights and responsibilities (parenting time, custody, and child support), maintenance (spousal support/ alimony), paternity, step-parent adoption, relocation cases, the division of assets and debt, LGBTQ family law matters, post-decree modifications, and guardianship. Elissa also handles mediation for family law cases.
Call Elissa Bercovitz at the Bercovitz Law Firm at (303) 803-1678